I’m starting to realize that one of the main tools I have in my “skills for coping with life” toolbox is writing. When something difficult or troubling happens, writing helps me untangle and examine and recognize my feelings, and doing so makes mental space for a solution to appear. If I don’t write about something, my fears and other troublesome emotions clog everything up, and I can’t figure out what to do about any of it.
Sometimes I worry that this makes me slow to respond to things, and I guess that I probably am slow compared to people who process things differently. But I’m starting to accept that I need to use the tools that work for me, even if they’re slow.
How do you process unexpected, difficult things? Is it a conscious task, or does all of your processing go on unconsciously?