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By: Emotional release feels good – to kids, too. « Loving Earth Mama

Emotional release feels good – to kids, too. « Loving Earth Mama — Mon, 21 Nov 2011 09:43:52 +0000

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By: Kory

Kory — Mon, 05 Sep 2011 09:35:40 +0000

Thank you for the response, I’ll check that one out.

It’s true, there are things about my childhood I hadn’t consciously remembered until having my own children. I like what you said about self discipline too, I could see how it would be very difficult to be consistent with your children if you’re not consistent with yourself. Looks like I have a lot of work ahead of me, but then isn’t that one of the wonders of parenting? We go in to it thinking we will teach our children so much when really we are the students more often than not.
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By: michelle

michelle — Mon, 05 Sep 2011 05:10:51 +0000

Well, I often recommend the Happiest Toddler on the Block for parents who are new to the idea or practice of Gentle Discipline, and especially those parents who have toddlers because his book is totally aimed at helping parents deal with the kind of behaviours and responses that toddlers have. The Happiest Toddler is also pretty hands-on and less philosophical, which can be easier to deal with when you’re just getting started.

Discipline is hard because so much of our own childhoods come back to us when we’re raising our own kids. And also because every kid and every parent is different, and every parent has to pretty much work out the details of how and when they will respond to things as they go along with each child. I’ve found it easier to discipline my kids after focusing on my own self-discipline for several months. Looking closely at how I’m consistent, respectful, playful, etc, with myself has been useful, because however I am with myself will spill over into how I discipline my kids.

By: Kory

Kory — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 09:45:12 +0000

Is the Alfie Kohn book where you would suggest one start with this?

I have worked with children for years and have seen over and over that they respond best to respect and understanding and I really want to parent my children that way but unfortunately it’s so opposite of how I was raised (Um, how about time outs where you lean against a wall with only your nose touching for 20 minutes? Or multiple belts for different spanking occasions? Yeah…) that I don’t really know what to do or how to handle things like when she hits her sister, or has a full tantrum over something I can’t change, which means we end up without any sort of consistency when it comes to discipline which is even more awful because my poor girl doesn’t know what to expect… ugh. (as a side note we have never hit or spanked her, but she has had time outs -that never work- up to three minutes long -she’s 2.5yrs)

Anyway I guess I’m just overwhelmed by discipline, I can’t seem to figure out the right way to do it or how to stick to anything… help?
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Tue, 02 Aug 2011 21:45:43 +0000

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Cheers to Learning About Ourselves as We Go Along… « My Inspired Baby — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 07:26:03 +0000

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By: If Spanking Does Not Work in the Long-Term, Why Start Spanking at All?

If Spanking Does Not Work in the Long-Term, Why Start Spanking at All? — Wed, 22 Dec 2010 05:06:04 +0000

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