This got me thinking about the role of dads in the parent vortex. Some dads are indeed irresistibly engulfed by being a parent, some are stay-at-home dads, others have their daily or weekly routines that they do with their kids. They brush teeth, they change nappies, they take kids to swimming or skating or soccer. Today’s dads are involved, they are emotionally available, they are researching and reading and learning about parenting philosophies. Just one generation ago it was not uncommon for dads to be completely uninvolved with childbirth and baby care, now they’re interviewing doulas and doing full-time diaper duty.
Parents often need more support than just each other to make their lives run smoothly. Childcare providers, playgroups, preschool teachers, friends and extended family – all provide valuable support. However, when our supports are working well they tend to become less visible. Not necessarily taken for granted, but we just aren’t immediately aware of everything that they do to create space, time and energy for our own projects, for work and rest, for all the shoelaces that get tied when we’re not looking. For the teeth that are brushed without us even noticing.
Who is your most valuable parenting support? Why?